For we dare not class ourselves or compare ourselves with those who commend themselves. But they, measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.

II Corinthians 10:12 NKJV

Each man has his/her own gift, talent, calling, purpose and timing. We are all different and unique in our own way even when we’re involved in the same profession or similar business. Our uniqueness is lost when we begin to compare ourselves, try to be more like certain people and act like others. Not only is it limiting, it is also frustrating, because our timing is different. Someone you’re comparing yourself with might be in their season of harvest, but you might be in your season of planting. When you look at their field, compare the effort they’re putting in and yours vis a viz the results you both are getting, you’re likely to get discouraged and despise what you’re doing. You don’t know what their dream is, they may be carrying seeds of corn, but inside of you might be cocoa seeds. The requirements are different and the timing different.

The bible therefore calls the act of comparison “foolishness”, because it drains one of focus and intensity. It makes one to lose momentum, it’s an invitation for unnecessary depression and ingratitude of what God is doing in one’s life and the progress one is making.

Many, because of other people’s Instagram post have broken their relationship, abandoning the man that can give them a home and buy them a car in the future, because someone’s boyfriend bought a ticket to Dubai; others have despised and abandoned their dream in pursuit of money in order to be able to live the life others post on social media. While social media post can inspire and motivate one, remember, behind the glam posted on social media is some consistent years of hustle. Therefore seek to pursue your dream and not to live someone’s Instagram life. You see something on Instagram and put pressure on your husband. Someone whose husband has just finished beating writes a lovely post about their relationship made in heaven and your relationship now stinks. Stop the comparison, build your own home, pursue your own dream, run your own race, live your own life, stay on your own lane. Evolve! Become! Emerge! The world is waiting for your uniqueness and when you come out in your own time, fully formed and complete, your reign will last and your life will inspire others.